This particular strip that was torn off me (by someone who shall remain anonymous) because of my newfound love of blogging. It went something like this:
Anon. - "So, what's with this blogging thing, anyway? I mean, whatever happened to real conversations?"
Me - "We - meaning you and I - still have real conversations - pretty much daily, in fact!"
Anon. - "Yeah, but it seems like all the good stories go on the blog lately. I have to read the blog to get the stories!"
(I suppose that that point I should have been flattered that she thought my stories - in any format - were good. But instead, I was dismayed.)
"Whaddaya mean 'all the good stories go on the blog'?!" I asked, with incredulity in my voice.
Anon. said - "Well, you never even told me about that student hitting on you. Not once in any conversation. I mean, I suppose that I don't tell you all my stories either, but you'd think that because we're friends that you'd at least tell me stuff like that! That should be the kind of stuff you share with your friends in person, not put on the Internet for just anybody to read about!!"
As usual, she had a point. (Her logical and analytical approach to life is one of the things I appreciate the most about her.)
It made me think about that story in particular and blogging in general. Here are some reflections:
About the story "That invisible professional line"
I was definitely surprised and taken aback by that incident. Even though it may have seemed that I gave a good response, the whole thing pretty much threw me for a loop.
As I reflect on the blog posting, I'm quite sure that I mentally processed what happened through writing about it. I mean, the very nature of a blog (web log, web diary) is that it is a space for a person - any person - to write their thoughts.
And, truth be told.... I was a little bit embarrassed by the whole incident! So... much better to keep it "at arm's length" by writing about it.
I would add, by the way, that the comments I received on the posting (both in public on the blog and in private) helped me to process the event even further and eventually, just laugh at the stupidity of it all! (He really was acting stupid, after all!)
About blogging in general
The timing of when I started this blog should not be lost on you, gentle and sweet reader. It was just a few weeks before I started back to school as a full time student. I did let most of my friends and family know that my obsessively dedicated and loyal e-mails and phone calls would have to be cut to a dull roar if I was going to have any time at all to study.
So, this forum becomes one way for people to check in when they like, find out what's new and pick and choose bits to read.
I try to include a little humour and fun stuff, as well as some personal reflections in each one, just so they're at least half interesting to read.
And on a purely selfish note, I must say that I absolutely love it when you leave comments on the blog. So far, private e-mails and comments about the blog far outweigh the number of comments people leave on the blog. But the idea of a dialogue is part of the fun.
The term "blogger slut" came up in one conversation, but I think that people who fit that title might actually be found on some of the adult blogs out there, rather than on this one - or any blog that I'm linked to. ;-) But having said that, getting comments on postings does rather make my day! (Hint, hint!)
Oh yeah, and speaking of fun... I actually find this fun! Most of you know that I have a writer's heart. I'll take e-mail (or a letter!) over the phone any day. When I can escape from the absolutely hideously crazy schedule I've been keeping, and sneak off to write a blog entry, I re-charge my batteries and relax at the same time. Yes, it does take a bit of time -- a bit -- but I need to do something to re-energize after my full-time studies, teaching, coordinating projects at the research centre and being a research assistant to a prof in Education. That's about 70 hours of week a work and study, if I tally it all up.
Helllllloooooo?! Going a little nutso here!
And blogging is one of those "little" things that keeps me sane. :-)
On that Myers-Briggs psychology/personality instrument, I've come out three times in a row as a borderline extrovert/introvert. I need people. I love people, in fact! I love being around friends and loved ones, having coffee (mmm... coffee!) or doing whatever... and I also need some alone time. And writing, blogging, is part of the alone time.... it just happens to be "alone time" that ultimately I share with you because whatever gets written gets published on the Web.
I will try, however, to share stories in person as much as possible. And as a few of you have recently found out... there are some stories that will never make it to this blog. This is a pubilc forum, after all... :-)
And so, don't worry, those of you who are close at hand... blogging will never -- never, ever --replace the conversations, experiences and most importantly, the fun and laughs we share together. Those are more valuable than any degree, any job or any hobby. They're what make the memories and stories we treasure so much as we look back on life!!
Love to all,