Wednesday, November 08, 2006

Dispassionate Non-Attachment - Part Two

Dispassionate Non-Attachment has taken a new twist.

I'm thinking of selling my townhouse.

Now, before you think I've gone totally nuts, let me just say that when I bought it 2.5 years ago, I was in a relationship and the place was for "us".


The boy is long since gone (and a horrible mistake was narrowly missed -- she says, wiping sweat off brow, as she remembers taking off the ring that graced her finger...) In fact, we'd been here only a few months when things ended.

I haven't had much attachment to the place I call "home" in a long time. I do, however, resist change. And I hate moving.

But maybe it is time to downsize as I move into thesis-writing mode...

Hhhmmm... must think on it more... Dispassionately, of course.

10 comments:

backofpack said...

Sarah,
I can understand why you might want to move...what about the timing though? How soon does that thesis writing start? Will this add stress at an already stressful time? I know in the long run it might reduce stress...just wondering...

Turtle Guy said...

Perhaps a new space is best. Real Estate is hot right now - a plus for selling, but you will have to live SOMEWHERE, and around here it will cost.

olga said...

Going through selling/buying process myself right now, I can share that much: we decided on the move exactly to end bad memories (not with house, but for our son to not be reminded of his past). If you think your place has memories of "it was supposed to be us and now it's not" and it hurts you - go on and sell. If you are fine with your memories, and there is no place that you'd RATHER call home, then may be moving before stress time is not a great idea.
My sister also moved out of a place where she lived with her husband once she divorced and from where she lived with her son once he died. Another reason could be a closer commute, better neighborhood or nicer house. Other than that, I am pretty indifferent on where to live. But then again, we've been moving around every two years (not by choice), so I am used to it and don't grow attachments.
You'll figure it out. Listen to your heart.

Janice said...

Hi Sarah,

You have to do what your think is best for you, but do you actually want to go through all the work of moving when your working on your thesis?

Janice~

Anonymous said...

Mooooving? That definitely sounds like a test of your dispassionate non-attachment thing. Just the thought makes me passionate enough to start yanking out gobs of hair.. wait. Why am I bald on one side? Could it be the move next spring. Don't let this happen to you, Sarah. Shave your head first.

craig said...

Thesis writing mode. I remember it well. I have an essay written to my (twin) brother on the horrors of that experience. It was composed after I was finished and he was entering a doctoral program. Only someone who has walked that road could fully appreciate it. If I can locate it I may send it to you. Wish you well. Do you know what your topic is going to be?

wthenrest said...

I don't think your crazy..or maybe I always thought you were crazy :0) Hehe
MMM were are you thinking of moving? What part o' town I mean...

zouzou said...

egg-zackly! are you moving out of the hood?? Right after I moved in?? Maybe I'll have to follow you out. smirk.

D said...

Sometimes it is nice to start with a clean slate - no memories attached.

Sarah Elaine said...

Still thinking... Not sure what hood yet, but I salivate at the thought of something more central...I miss my old hood! So close to 17th Ave.!

Never did want to live in the 'burbs...